Justin will be 4 in January and he's probably 95% reliable to make it to the toilet during the day, but still wets the bed every night. I've been putting him in a Pull Up every night, and every night he completely pees through it and onto his sheet and comforter. So every day I have to completely strip his bed, wash everything, you know the drill.
Is there something that would work better than a Pull Up for a very heavy nighttime wetter?
And when did YOUR son start staying dry at night? He's been "potty trained" ( I hate that term!) for about a year now.
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My first was dry at night as soon as she was dry during the day. However, my 8 yr old, 5 yr old, and almost 3 yr old are all wet at night. My dd2 uses Goodnights, dd3 and dd4 use what ever brand of training pants is on sale or whatever character we're in the mood for. LOL
No good suggestions on what you chould use instead. Maybe you can get disposable doublers and put one of those in the pull-up? Good luck, mama!
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When I logged on today, I wanted to come and post this EXACT thread. After Daniel potty-learned, we put him to bed in PJs, although he prefers to be naked and that's how we find him every morning. I don't know what to do either. I have thought about setting my alarm and going in and getting him to use the toilet during the night, but my DH says it's a matter of time before he will just do it himself, but it's been almost 2 years. Sorry to be taking over your thread, I need the same advise you do. AND, GOOD LUCK to you guys, I know what a pain it is to wash sheets EVERY DAY!
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My 6yo still wets. He sleeps so soundly I can't get him to the bathroom during the night. Too heavy to carry and he won't stand up when he's asleep.
We use goodnights on him and they work most of the time. I have tried several cloth products and they all leak out. He wets too much for them to hold it all.
If anyone knows of any cloth that would work please post about it. Nothing I've tried is absorbant enough.
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My now 8 1/2 yr old had this problem. I thought I had tried absolutely everything. What I did in the end was:
Put him to bed without any clothes on his bottom half. I layered towels underneath him and gave him a towel to use as a blanket. I figured that he would soak the bed anyway so I might as well try something different. Some proponents of 'toilet training' say that when the child is wearing a diaper or pull-up that even though he 'knows' he's supposed to stay dry, he has the reassuring feeling of a diaper and subconsciously lets go. It was recommended to train my then 2 3/4 yr old with a bare bottom - so I figured if it would work for him, then it could work for his big brother.
End of story: it worked!
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that the child should wear "regular" underwear and if they wet the bed, they should be the ones to clean up after themselves. Lay out some thick towels on a chair and have them place it over the wet area if it's still dark/late and then have them wash the sheets later (help them out, of course, but have them do most of the work). I don't know how this would work with a younger child (say under the age of 6?) but I'm pretty sure an older child might get tired of having to do this nightly/daily and figure out they'd be better off listening to their bladder and peeing in the toilet! lol! Also, no liquids at least 2 hours before bedtime to reduce the pee-creating-factor, if you can wing it. hth!
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I went out to Walmart and bought one of those mattress cover things. It is one that fits like a sheet and cost about $20 I think. It completely protects the mattress.... no leaking. But I still have to wash his sheets... but I have enough extra by now if I can't wash his blankets and sheets that day, I have another set or two on standby.
With my ds, I've noticed a strong link between his bed wetting and when he is going through a growth spurt. We try to get him to go to the bathroom when we go up for bed. He'll go for months at a time and then it starts up again right about the time he's complaining about his legs being sore and eating everything in sight.
Y'know, I know too much about this subject. My oldest daughter wet the bed until right before her 12th birthday and right after she got her first period. I tried everything for those 9 years of bedwetting- I thought there would be something we could do to fix it. Setting the alarm to wake her up, using a bedwetting alarm, limiting fluids, trying to teach her to "feel" her bladder was full at night, seeing different dr's, making her change the sheets on her own, having her sleep in just underwear... EVERYTHING. You name it, we tried it! Bottom line was that she just wasn't ready! We used cloth ME bedwetters for a few years, but in the end I used goodnights because she was getting so big and wetting so much. the goodnights worked much better then the pullups.
I've been following this thread since I posted my reply at the beginning. My main objection to letting my child just wet the bed and then change the sheets is that I was once that child. Even if my mom would just mater-of-factly have me strip my bed in the morning, it was humiliating! I was restricted from drinking after dinner (5:30pm) where I was only allowed one small glass of milk. The only thing that worked was time.
When my dd2 told me that wearing the Goodnights bothers her I was able to empathize. After telling her what I went through with a wet bed every morning, she was as grateful as I am that they make these products for older children.
Overall it comes down to doing what you feel is best for your child.
My DS is 5 and he usually wakes up w/ a wet pull-up (Good Nights or generic knock off). I bought a MOE nighttime pull-up and he used once but we had a leak. I am going to try that again and boost absorbency.
There are homeopathic remedies for bedwetting. I know Hylands makes tablets. I haven't used them and was hoping someone might know if/how they work. ???
I know that children who wet the bed are usually very embarrassed by it and I would never do anything to make the child seem like he/she did anything wrong. Definitley I don't think a younger child should have to deal with the wet sheet things. I think with an older child, even they get some dignity by doing it and realize it isn't a punishment or anything, then maybe that would work -- just as long as it isn't presented in any that seems like it is a punishment.
My 3 yr old is usually dry at night. So I know each child is different.
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I don't like the idea of making the child do the work. It isn't something they are doing on purpose.
The tendency to wet the bed is largely inherited. Food allergies can contribute.
Dr. Sears says until they are 6 years old, do NOTHING. NOTHING. Just put them in diapers (we use a diaper with a disposable doubler, not a pull-up) and change them in the morning. He does not believe you should restrict fluids.
Katie has just started being dry at night. I used my own cloth night pants for a while, but I'm not making them anymore. Too much work and stress for me.
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I didn't mean that by letting the child deal with the wet sheets, cleaning, etc... that you're punishing them. Of course they're not wetting the bed on purpose--but by "owning" the problem, doesn't it give them some sense of control over the situation? Similar to learning to tie your shoes, become potty trained, etc...stopping bed wetting just takes some time. Best wishes to all who have this to contend with!
I would not make Justin change his bed. He's still in a toddler bed with the waterproof crib mattress, so that helps. I feel bad because some nights he wants to sleep in our bed, but besides there being no room, I can't have Justin-pee in our bed! So our compromise is that I push the toddler bed (which is in our room) right against our queen sized bed.
I do, however, make him clean the bathroom floor after he pees all over it. I jsut started doing it recently and it has gone from every time he pees to once a day. Argh, how hard is it to aim your stream into the toilet instead of onto the floor? Well I wouldn't know I guess, LOL.
I know it's just a matter of time...maybe I'll try the GoodNights. He's little though, maybe 31 lbs or something, so they might be too big...I could also try the diaper doublers, I didn't think of that. I have been considering letting him sleep in underwear and seeing if it helps, but I don't wnat him waking up in the middle of hte night sopping wet, nor do I want him sleeping in urine all night after he pees once. My guess is that he pees once or twice with no problem, but then he goes before he wakes up for the morning and that's when it leaks.
Oh, and MIL says DH wet the bed until he was 6 or 7, so I am betting I have a few more years of this.....
about 2-3 hours after she went to bed and then she was good the rest of the night. It took about 1 1/2 before she was dry at night after she was day potty trained. Now she still gets up at night once by herself and she's 5 1/2 and my ds who's 3 1/2 is dry for 12-14 hours at night and has been for almost 1 1/2 years! Tina
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Even if my mom would just mater-of-factly have me strip my bed in the morning, it was humiliating!
Gosh, I guess I never really thought about that. I usually change the sheets, and am pretty matter of fact about it. I always tell him it's not a big deal, it just means he's growing.
I'm not sure how I'd do it differently though. I used to put a pull-up on him at night and he said he didn't want to wear a diaper.
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