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If I may gracely step in and say WOW! to the both of you. I know Ian and he is just as WOW IRL as he is on the board, well...actually better. And you sound pretty cool yourself. How wonderful that your mother was able to provide with such a rich and wonderful childhood. Funny, trying to do "just as well as our parents" has always been an issue for me to.
My parents grew up in 3rd world countries, poverty stricken to the extreme. They came to CA at 15 and 17 (independent of each other) and have managed to raise a family, provide the children with everything they could possibly need, good college educations and then some. They never made the "rich" level, but they definitely reached the happily comfortable level. They have and continue to work their butts off and make it against all odds.
So, how the hell do I compete with that. Born with a silver spoon in my mouth, nothing I could ever accomplish would come close to that. But I have come to learn that it isn't a competition.
They fulfilled their lives the way they wanted to, giving their children everything they ever wanted. My job is to do the same for my baby. Where their goal were for us to never suffer poverty or want for anything, mine is to give my baby a sense of self, happiness and appreciation for our planet and cultures. At the same time, I want to pass on our history to them, so they know what abuela and abuelo accomplished and what mami and papi have done thus far and that they too will add to the family history in their own special way.
Oops, seems I went on and on. Anyway, maybe I'm just thinking that you can share your family history with your girls, your life's story, your mom's life story and embrace it all. Sounds like the older ones can even start to add their own too.
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