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Wow, Joyce, I could of written your post <sigh> I do know what you are going through with your parents.
My mom is the most vocal about my parenting style <which is SO different from the way I was raised> She would never allow children to sleep in the same bed, with her. I am told this All the time. My children should sleep in their own rooms, alone.
When the children were infants I was told to let them cio...you will spoil them if you hold them too much <sigh>
Items, such as your ds's boots, are to be treated with respect...we did not have much growing up, so what you did have you took care of...This had been grilled into my head so many times, I sometimes struggle with thinking this way. I agree with you though, and try hard to let my children have the freedom to express themselves/explore without reminding them of the value of something.
I gently remind my mom that, yes, I parent differently then she did. My children are well adjusted, loving & respectful. I have made different choices in life then she did. I love my children very much and only want what is best for them, as you wanted for me.
I know that my mom and dad love me but my childhood was anything but happy for me. They did the best they thought they could at the time. I do not want that for my children so have chosen a different parenting path. Not even realizing, at the time, there was a name for it...AP!!
My mom seems to understand then...when gently reminded of what my childhood was like. Oh, how easy it is to forget.
I understand your frustration but know you are doing what is best for your children.
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