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hmmm - I'm hoping someone wise will come on here to help you out. I just want to encouage you that it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job and are the kind of parent I truly WANT to become. I want to be the parent who thinks first of the child before yelling about the boots (or other thing).
I know I've told my MIL (multiple times) that we are the parents of our children and so things are our decision and she had her turn with her kids. But, ummm, that's not too tactful! I don't try to explain because she never listens anyway.
I think you are right that a lot of it is defensiveness about how they raised you. For example- my MIL tried to feed my 3 WEEK old baby solids and was adament through all THREE babies that I should bottlefeed because it's healthier for the baby. No interest in the actual FACTS just "that's what I did and my kids turned out fine and I raised 3 children, so I have all the experience". Sigh.
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~ Cheryl ~ single mama to
Melissa (9), Michael (8), Madeleine (7)
twins Megan & Maribeth (4)
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