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Barb · 06-15-2008, 01:09 PM

I honestly don't know how you do it and I can only imagine you're exhausted. Nursing in and of itself as a profession is exhausting.

What does your husband do for a living? I'm concerned about "husband demanded that I return to work". That statement is pretty significant. My husband would not *demand* anything of me - he might suggest, we might discuss, but I went back to work after 7 years at home because I wanted to, and because it was what we needed to do financially. When I did go back to work, the rules of the house changed including help with laundry, help with cooking and cleaning - I would not tolerate being expected to work full time and care for the house full time - no human can do that successfully. Period.

Is there any way to get on days? And get the family involved in helping maintain the house?
Glad that your daughter helps with the cooking. That is I'm sure helpful.

In our situation = we share all the responsibilities. Right now my dh is off work due to an injury (workmans comp) so he is responsible for the house except for weekends when I deep clean since he's the tidy/dishes/laundry guy and he is the daytime parent (which we all know is very tough) and does the dinner cooking.
When he goes back to work, the responsibilities will shift again and I'll take on more household stuff as I'd never expect HIM to work all day and then come home and cook and clean - he'd not expect that of ME either.

A chore chart might help - get everyone involved. A family is a team and has to work together to keep running.

Ftr, my kids are almost 5 (but really more like 3 1/2 emotionally), almost 8 and 18.

06-15-2008, 01:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
Barb Attached working mama! iTrader: 47 / 100% Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Drinking coffee somewhere. Posts: 31,486	I honestly don't know how you do it and I can only imagine you're exhausted. Nursing in and of itself as a profession is exhausting. What does your husband do for a living? I'm concerned about "husband demanded that I return to work". That statement is pretty significant. My husband would not demand anything of me - he might suggest, we might discuss, but I went back to work after 7 years at home because I wanted to, and because it was what we needed to do financially. When I did go back to work, the rules of the house changed including help with laundry, help with cooking and cleaning - I would not tolerate being expected to work full time and care for the house full time - no human can do that successfully. Period. Is there any way to get on days? And get the family involved in helping maintain the house? Glad that your daughter helps with the cooking. That is I'm sure helpful. In our situation = we share all the responsibilities. Right now my dh is off work due to an injury (workmans comp) so he is responsible for the house except for weekends when I deep clean since he's the tidy/dishes/laundry guy and he is the daytime parent (which we all know is very tough) and does the dinner cooking. When he goes back to work, the responsibilities will shift again and I'll take on more household stuff as I'd never expect HIM to work all day and then come home and cook and clean - he'd not expect that of ME either. A chore chart might help - get everyone involved. A family is a team and has to work together to keep running. Ftr, my kids are almost 5 (but really more like 3 1/2 emotionally), almost 8 and 18. __________________ ~Barb Mama to Chelsey,19, Zoey,8 and Roman, 5 I am iso 5T sweats, jeans and ls t's - lmk if you have anything cheap? or for trade? thanks!