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Originally Posted by Natalia
Today, I was tapping after yelling at S and remembered my parents telling me (don't remember the actual incidents) how I would always cry when my mother sang to me. She is tone-deaf, so the fact that I cried when she sang amused my father. Apparently, they thought it was so funny that they used it as a party-trick -- my mother would sing, and I would cry. This must have been when I was very young, an infant. Anyway, I cried and cried tapping on this. Doesn't seem like such a big deal.
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When I read this, it seems like a HuGE deal. I feel this deep wound ---
how unbelievable sad that a misconnection between you and your mother was a parlor trick. So I understand your crying about this.
I love the idea of working you mother-daughter relationships. Agreeing with Linda, starting with your own (as mother and daughter) is the place to start and as we heal our own relationships, we heal it for others.
One way to start this is to stand, close your eyes, and imagine yourself facing your mother and seeing what comes up. How do you feel? Tap on that and see what shifts. Continue until you are clear. Then bring in your mothers' mother. Have her stand behind your mother -- what do you notice? Tap on that.
I'll try to write more about Family Constellations later but one starting question is what secrets, excluded persons, traumas, abortions, suicides, crimes or other early deaths are there in your family history?
What family stories are there?
That gives you material to work with.
(You can go back 7 generations for this.)
I'm offline tomorrow but will be back this weekend.
Hugs,
Deb.