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Originally Posted by mamabear
We still struggle with feeling "deprived" when we say to ourselves, "We can't do X." I think it comes from having been on a tight budget for the better part of a decade.
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Ditto.. that is Don's rational whenever he wants something. "We have been deprived for SO long why shouldn't we look like we have the money we have." He hates my answer "Because we don't really have it. We have borrowed it and now need to give it back." lol...
BUT, I think a huge part of me compacting this year is going to be planning ahead. He is on board with that... and once we have planned ahead for every little thing (including his soft drinks, and my coffee shop dates with Cyan, eating out once a week, etc) then we will be able to cut back on some of those thing (well, we have left overs, so why don't we not eat out this week and have dinner in front of the tv instead (which is also a treat here)? KWIM? It will be easier if at first, we are not depriving ourselves at all.
I do have to tell you Lauren, that when we first started getting this income, it was all we could do to wait until payday to spend it (this was 4 months ago now) so expect a learning curve for you and Matt, you guys have been on a lean path for a long time now. There is some 'honeymoon' time that is diserved there. Be gentle with your choices... and know the buckling down is coming, even though it may not look like it... you know?
Val