Originally Posted by ChantingMama

And I completely agree with yours. Bullying within families is just as much of a mess as outside bullying, but it's a work in progress, and you can actively DO something about it, change attitudes, change mindsets and behaviours. You are not left standing there trying to deal with someone who you have no control over, who has no long term place in your life, and who you have a limited opportunity to make an impact. And bullying within families is frequently just a response to cabin fever, or processing of other issues with people they feel safest with.

Bullying OUTSIDE the family is ALSO frequently processing of other issues, but along with much deeper issues...if it is your kid doing the bullying, you have a lot more to work on than just "No hitting", and if it's another kid, you have to deal with the moment, because you are not going home with that kid, and working on long term changes. You deal with what you have got, which isn't much.