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Also, with siblings, just knowing their parents don't think it is ok is helpful.
Yes, it is never ok to bully or hurt your sibling, but where I take exception as an adult is when parents knowingly turn a blind eye towards it OR they are so wrapped up in their own lives (TV or simply not paying attention) that they truly don't notice.
I know my sister was brutal to me. Sometimes my folks knew, but much of the time, they simply weren't paying attention or they were leaving it up to us to work it out. Guess what happened? My sister was as good as gold to others and I was the one that got in trouble for "being mean". Kids tend to work it out somewhere.
In all honesty, things go quite well here. We've spent a great deal of time on relationships and "your family gets your best or no one gets the rest." There are days where they fight, but I am there to keep reminding them of the rules and to help them communicate in a more appropriate fashion. I hope that will be the difference in how my kids perceive their upbringing vs. how I saw mine.
ETA: Chantingmama I do see your points for sure on sibling "bullying" vs. typical bullying.
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