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Originally Posted by Mamax4
I think chiclren should be protected, but I also think that sometimes people see impulsive behavior on the part of small children as 'bullying' when it really isn't. I always step in if children are not being kind...but I also want to send the more aggrsive/impulsive child a gentle message. Impulsive little ones get a lot of negative feedback, so I think it's important to help these kids get a different sense of themselves (even in a short exchange). The motivation of the bully matters too, in how I handle it. Bullying and impulsivity are not the same.
But no, I don't allow power plays and I've always been proactive and participatory in dealing with situations that are not postive. Fi, I have never allowed my children to hit each other...I never let that go even with tiny ones and my children do not hit. Dh and I have also been very emphatic about there being no putdowns in a family etc.
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It's not that I don't understand and see things the way the rest of you are describing, but I'm with Laurie here.
I have a different definition of bullying.
I also will not miss a chance to "teach" an impulsive/aggressive kid that their method of communication is not ok rather than just symbolically shrugging my shoulders and giving up. I will help my child communicate to the other child. As and adult I will also communicate with offending child.
I have heard of long-term instances of kids being tormented and bullied (how do you spell that word?
) However, I think much of the generic stuff we're talking about is much ado about nothing.
*slinking away now...*