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Originally Posted by Sunflower_Momma
In the past my thinking was to always turn the cheek and be nice. If it could not be addressed through those means then the "authorities" (teachers, parents, administrators) would resolve it. Now, I think that the first step is generous and kind, but that if that does not immediately work, shock and awe is the next step. I.E., hit and hit hard. Symbolically speaking. I find it shocking that I am even thinking of doing something that might hurt another child.
in summary: I now believe that kindness and generousity will not always work to resolve bullying and that aggression might have to be the way to treat it. And, that shocks me that I am thinking that way.
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Unfortunately for us, the authorities did nothing to help and, on the contrary, contributed to the bullying issue by putting all of the onus on my ds. In the end, as you may know, ds left the school last spring and was homeschooled for the remainder of the year. He is finally in a school where he is safe. His present principal told me that the other school was 'very,very bad for Akiva and that the old school made it seem that everything that had haapened was Akiva's fault. He (tthe principal) now sees how he was misled by Aiva's old teachers.
What would i do about bullying? I'd come down hard. there is no excuse for treating someone without common decency.