i always recommend a couple of books for moms at this stage. it's just the beginning of discipline...and in some ways is harder than it will be later bc the child is so young and really quite immature. the issues later will be bigger (as will the child) but at least you can reason with them
and hopefully if you've done ok they'll have empathy and will understand what you're saying (even if they don't agree...)
dr. sears has a great book called, quite simply, the discipline book. highly recommend that one.
ames and ilg have a series of books...your one year old, your two year old, etc...get the your two year old and you'll gain a lot of perspective into the "why" of his behavior. for me, that removed a lot of anger from my side of the conflict to understand exactly why he did it.
playful parenting (forgot the author and i leant my copy out) LOVE this one.
how to talk so your kids will listen by faber and maslish...omg this is a staple parenting book.
these will get you started...i am of the rebecca variety of parent overall...we strive to be gentle with our boys. we are not always quiet (i wish we were but if you know charles and i well you know that's just not our personalities, nor is it our sons' either...) but we are always loving and caring. we always follow up discipline with hugs and a chance to snuggle. as it is my 8 and 9yo ask permission for everything and mostly talk through their feelings (including the big ones) rather than acting out...unlike lots of kids their ages in the neighborhood that i see. they are not automatons and are allowed to question us respectfully (now...not when they were 2) but seem to respect that we know best and are in charge.
my disclaimer: my parenting style may not mesh with everyone but it jives for my family and it stems deeply from my LLL experiences. we have never been the sort to "wear" an AP badge of any sort (although i don't know of one we did not/do not do if you visit mothering.com
i could have such an impressive siggy over there if that was the case
)...we parent from the heart and follow our instincts. our goal is not to have robots for kids who blindly obey but rather to raise empathetic and thoughtful men who think for themselves but respect authority when it is present.