Thanks guys,
And Logan, thanks for your input, as scary as it is. I hate that these kids are damaged before we even get a chance to try and parent them.
It's just the saddest thing that these are the ones who need us the most, but are the most unappealing to parent. It's hard when you don't bond to them because they are so antagonistic and you just don't feel like they're yours the same as the others. It's just hard.
On the other hand, I do blame my husband for alot of this. He is immature and teases and jokes around and has no impulse control. He has a scary loud voice and Naomi just doesn't want to be around him. But instead of him trying to change so she can get to know and love him, he just feels rejected and doesn't try. So he's in a place where he thinks she hates him so he'll just hate her back. Of course I'm exaggerating it, but that's kind of how it feels. And I'm in the middle. It's the single hardest thing our marriage has survived and it's the ONLY thing we fight about anymore. He just can't be bothered making an effort for someone who doesn't like him. It's so complicated and emotional.
Kerri