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i respect Barb's approach very much....but i did tell my son NO MYSPACE because for me and my family i just found there were other ways i wanted him spending his time.
BUT i said no myspace right now. meaning we can revisit it again when he is older/next year-whatever.
Also I told him when he started high school that he will enjoy the next 4 years much more if he chooses friends that have similiar values to ours. If he tried to hang out with friends who do/try to do things we are not in favor of he will not be allowed to hang out with them.
right now he has befriended a boy who we know doesn't have the kindest parents. There appears to be a lot of belittleing and yelling.........dh's first response was that he wasn't a good friend for ds. But I spoke to ds and he told me these things about his friend-- as well as that he has a temper--but he also told me the reasons he likes him and those were very good things about this young man.....the bottom line i told ds that he needs to be a good friend to him and a 'leader' of sorts and that if this boy makes any poor decisions he needs to be a good friend (and protect himself) and take a stand. i have met the boy and dh has met the parents (as the teacher of his older brother) and we are allowing our son to move forward with this friendship but keeping a close eye on things.......sometimes you have to allow your children to find things out for themselves.......
is your biggest concern MYSPACE? or her changing behavior? or her failure to honor your rules?
Luna
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