I'll have DH talk to SIL again, but these people are odd about things like this. I was trying to see if I was the one who was off here, or Nana. Like I said, I'm pretty sure that the more contact, the better, when possible. Nana's not all that versed in adoption, especially not in the modern world of open adoptions. She is willing to listen to reason, however, so I doubt I'd have to fight her for the contact info for the potential APs (she works with them).
Or... I could take see if DH can talk his sister into letting my sister, Gael, adopt. Since she apparently is willing.
Everyone wave to my sister:
