I definitely think you should contact the AP and offer your involvement. Thumbs up to you guys for doing so. I so wish we had that for our daughters.
I don't think I'd fight to be the AP though. I'd let her know your desire, and how strongly you desire it, but ultimately it's her decision. And if family is too hard of a decision to make, then that's that. That must really hurt though, and I'm sorry.
