She's apparently thinking of putting up her baby for adoption when she has her, but wants to go outside the family. We offered, but she said no. I know that it was a long shot in that family. They're very concerned with appearances and whatnot.
Anyway, I'm not going to force myself on the adoptive family (the people being considered are just a couple hours from me), but I do want them to know we're here if baby girl grows up into a kid and has questions, wants to meet some of her biofamily, etc. Nana thinks it would be better if we didn't. I said open adoptions seem to be working well for all parties. She said that it would be weird if aunts and uncles met baby girl, but her bio mom didn't. I said she'd still be able to answer some questions and know we all love her, and the biomom thing isn't any different whether she knows we're around or not.
I think I'm right, of course.
I get that biomom's disinterest would suck, but that's not going to be changed by knowing us.
I'm not that attached to the idea - if SIL and the APs don't want us involved, we won't be, but I just wanted then to know we're available if she comes to that place with all the whys and what was biofamily like questions (my cousins both had a lot of those, but that was in the time of closed adoption).
Thoughts, experiences, comments?