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I would first try to figure out why he's waking. Does he need a drink of water inthe night? or to use the bathroom? Is he getting cold as the temp. drops? Usually when my DD shows up in our bed (on those rare nights when she does sleep in her own room) it's because something woke her up. She wakes, does her thing and then realizes that she's alone & doesnt want to be so she comes to us.
Another option is to give your DS a little bed or "nest" in your room so that he isn't crowding you out of the bed but is still near by. a twin bed that could slide under your bed suring the day, a sleeping bag at the foot of the bed, etc. We have a papasan chair in our room that DD can use as her bed if she wants.
Honestly I think we follow a double standard by sleeping with our spouses and then expecting our kids to sleep alone. Of course the kids are going to want to sleep with their parents because the parents are sleeping together. Also anthropologically speaking, nighttime is the most dangerous time (preditors etc) so there is still a part of the human brain that feels unsafe at night & seeks the saftey of being around others. Kids may not be saying "I feel unsafe because of an ingrained primal fear of nighttime" but they show it by actively seeking the saftey of being with their parents at night.
Chole
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