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Originally Posted by Maiden Comfort
I've promised dh could have the big V done after this babe is born. He was done after #2 (#3 was a surprise for both of us, but the others were planned) and gave me more babies even though he was more than happy with the ones we had 
Though I have to say - I'm done too. With homeschooling and stuff, I just can't see myself adding more kids. Not unless I compromised in the way I raise them, and I don't want to do that! Plus - I'm looking forward to the time where it will be just dh and I. We've never had that.
But the baby lust.... The thought of not nursing another babe after this one, the sweet moments of having a newborn, etc. I'm really going to miss those things.
How do you deal with it? Does it go away? I'm hoping it will be easier, knowing I AM done. I feel done. Maybe I'll have to borrow a newborn every once in a while, lol, at least until my kids start having their own babes! |
Allison,
If you both agree that you are "done", it won't be so tough...at least from my experience.
I did worry about the things you mentioned above but honestly, even though I ooh and aaah every once in a while over a new baby, knowing we were indeed "done" made me not have any regret or real baby lust.
I also did breastfeed our last until he was nearly five years old so I have so many wonderful memories of extended breastfeeding.
The most difficult aspect for me, even though we knew we were done, was going through and giving away all the baby things. I did keep very special items, but giving away all those little clothes that I had so thoughtfully chosen and all the wonderful natural baby items was a sad day for me. More of a letting go sadness than wanting another baby sadness. (hope that made sense) It was a walk down memory lane with six children and I did cry that day.
Now that our "baby" is coming up on his 6th birthday, I can say that I am so glad we are done. It was the correct decision for us.
I think that is the key.....both partners agreeing that it is time to say goodbye to pregnancy and moving forward into the next season of life.
I thought it would be tough but it really was not and I am so content!
Michelle