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Originally posted by Suefrog36
I have a 16 yr old DD who listens to this kind of music. I allow it but not infront of the younger siblings.
I figure it this way. As long as she stays a honor student and is always,and i mean always, busy with sports. And gets into no trouble i will let it go for now.
I can't pick eveything out for her. It gets to a point where she should beable to pick some things out for herself.
If for some reason things change then i will have to rethink about this possibly differently.
Sue
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I don't have a teen yet, but when I do...
I don't have a prob with the bad language (heck, they hear worse around here....dh has a mouth to make a sailor blush
), but I sure do have a prob with some of the messages in the songs.
Soo..I would allow the language, but I would want to see the liner notes to what they are listening to, and explain why that particular song or album is not allowed in the house, why that particular song or album is offensive to me, and to them.
When they reach a certain age, they will be able to pick what they want. I think that is going to be 18, though
FTR, I am very tolerant with a lot of stuff...we as a family are a very down to earth, grounded family; we can handle a lot of stuff that upsets other people, even the kids (though we still do moniter closely what they do come in contact with). I just don't like the gratuitus (sp?) violence, misogynistic attitudes, objectifying, whatever. I am fine with a lot, though, if it has a real purpose and reason for being there; if it helps carry their message through.
If it was me, with your situation, I would want to see the lyrics...I am sure that where she lives has enough language to make banning those CDs a joke, but the message they are sending to her in her fragile state of mind is a whole 'nother ball game, kwim?
OTOH, she is 14, you are the mom, and it is your house. What you say goes. You know best, even if she doesn't get it yet. She will when she grows up, and has you to thank for her not ending up on the trash heap of society.
JMNSHO!
Murali