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And would show him how to stroke my arm, or wherever, gently. And I would say "hands are not for hitting/pinching."
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i've been doing this for a while~telling her to be gentle and stroking my face w/ her hand...she now stokes my face whenever i tell her to be gentle
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And if she's hitting out of anger, you can show her how to channel that energy. I said to him "you cannot hit me, we don't hit people. If you're angry, you can hit a pillow."
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that's great! i know she's ding it b/c she's mad or frustrated but couldn't figure out how to tell her what to do in words, yk? she understands everything i say so telling her (and showing her) that she can hit the pillow will work i'm sure!
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The most important thing to remember is that if you want your child to understand that hitting is not okay, you can't do it either. It such a contradiction, they can't understand that. It shows them that if you're bigger and stronger than someone else, you can hit. Does that make sense?
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that's exactly what i've been trying to explain to my parents (who are hopeless~so i've given up on them) but i think dh is coming around~although he's only popped her hand once...and then i found out and freaked on him
anyway~that helps tremendously! i'll have to try it during her next fit...which won't be long ~ lol