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Yeah, its all the county's doing - thank goodness that our agency provides social workers for us that attend the first feww meetings - with the county we dont even get that. it is pretty daunting, but I would rather be there alone than not at all. It would be really,really hard for me to just turn this baby over for visits & to not be there, I'd feel like i was betraying the child. I think it is more gentle on the child to have their primary caregiver there to ease the adjustment.
They made it very clear that if the bios abuse their right to call they get put on a schedule. We will not be at their beck & call- everything is scheduled & at our convenience. We only get a child in our area & we can meet wherver we want, including the agency.
I hope that I wont feel resentful since I know what I am getting into up front. I think this situation really challenges you - you have more input & you also have a chance to help the parent by encouraging them & helping them understand their child (if warranted). I think that is a really hard position to take, it would be far easier to be judgmental & critical & not encourage! I am very curious what my initial reaction will be when I meet a bio parent !
anyway, this is all just the ramblings of someone who has only been to 1 training session LOL
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