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Things NOT to say to a mother (parent) of twins:
I got this from my twin group thought it was funny
Things NOT to say to a mother (parent) of twins:
1. You don't look like the mother of twins. What, exactly, is the mother of twins SUPPOSED to look like? Tearful and disheveled, with spit-up stains on both shoulders?
2. Are they identical? A fair question about twins of the same sex,but some people don't seem to understand that opposite sex twins CAN'T be identical.
3. Better you than me! It's hard to respond to such a negative remark. Keep in mind that having twins isn't all horror stories, and while these moms do have double the diapers, they also have twice the love and kisses.
4. Did you take fertility drugs? Whether they did or not, its a very personal question. How rude!!
5. My two children are so close in age, they're practically twins.
But, they are not. They won't start school together, share a birthday,or face years of being lumped together as one unit, forever referred to as "the twins".
6. You've got your hands full. Mothers of twins are fully aware of this fact. The only response to this dopey comment is to stick out my stomach and say, "I certainly will be by the time the triplets arrive!"
7. Two for the price of one! Well, not exactly, twins can't take advantage of hand-me-downs -- they grow out of clothing at the same time. And where are the savings in having to buy two sets of shoes, every few months? Or two car seats or two of each toy?
8. Double trouble. The biggest problem with this comment is that everyone who says it is convinced it's the first time you've heard it. The best answer, usually stated through gritted teeth, is, "Not at all. It's a double blessing." and we mean it.
So, if your wondering what's appropriate to say to a stressed-out, exhausted mother of twins, just three little words will do: "Twins? How lovely!"
Last edited by besttwins : 05-08-2004 at 10:18 AM.
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