Sorting out Guilt

Discussion in 'EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique' started by Deborah, Dec 29, 2008.

  1. Deborah

    Deborah New Member

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    In today's Law of Attraction craze/phase, folks sometimes think that guilt is a four letter word - something to be avoided and gotten rid of. I definitely don't advise staying stuck in an energy of guilt but there is often a nugget of wisdom to be found in our guilt. The trick is to distinguish between different types of guilt.

    • Our inner guidance wanting to be heard
    • A hidden conflict between our actions and our values that is asking for our attention
    • Outside influences and messages that we've unknowingly absorbed but truly aren't ours and can be discarded
    • A taking on of guilt within a system when
    it truly belongs to another person


    With an understanding of the different roles and parts of guilt, we can more effectively use tapping to clear guilt.

    Inner Guidance Waiting to Be Heard

    Intuition and guilt often overlap. In this case, I view guilt as our intuition using a sledgehammer to get our attention. A common example I see a lot is confusion between mother's intuition and mother's guilt. If I feel guilty about my child being ill, I am blocked from taking appropriate action. But the nugget to be found in the mother's guilt is the mother's intuition that something needs attention. I felt guilt for many years about some of the circumstances of my son's birth. After clearing the guilt by tapping, I then was free to take appropriate action. In this type of guilt, tapping will bring clarity so that appropriate action can be taken.

    A hidden conflict between our actions and our values that is asking for our attention

    If I go out drinking with buddies all night and wake up the next day in an alley, I may or may not feel guilty. All depends on my values and whether my behavior hurt someone else. If I do something unethical based on my values and feel guilty, that is entirely appropriate. Trusting our guilty feelings and looking for those values hidden in our guilt can be very eye-opening.

    The question to ask is, "What part of this guilt am I responsible for?" Or "What part of this guilt is mine?"

    Tapping can easily clear out the confusion:

    Even though I feel guilty, I accept myself. Even though it might be appropriate to feel guilty, I accept myself. Even though part of this is my responsibility and part of it isn't, I accept myself and my feelings of guilt.

    Outside influences and messages that we've unknowingly absorbed but truly aren't ours and can be discarded

    Sometimes guilt is just a misunderstanding, a mistaken belief that if others think this way, we should as well. If we get clear about what we want and what others want, the guilt will dissolve.

    In this case tapping is about differentiating the two voices:

    Even though I feel guilty, I am open to the idea that this guilt isn't mine. Even though I'm so used to listening to others, I've forgotten how to listen to myself, I am open to the idea that I can listen to myself. Even though this guilt isn't mine, I forgive myself for being confused and feeling guilty.

    A taking on of guilt within a system when it truly belongs to another person

    I see this with clients how were abused or neglected as children; they feel guilty as though somehow they did something wrong. During tapping, I look for the opportunity to offer the reframe that the guilt doesn't belong to the child. When I suggest that the guilt isn't theirs, the relief is often immediate.
  2. Natalia

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    Good stuff. Thank you for posting that.
  3. Linda

    Linda Amity's Focus Member

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    you don't drink :hahaha:

    ok just a new years funny:)

    I love the article, Deb. great stuff.
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    bubbles New Member

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    Hmmmm......good stuff to think (and tap) on.

    Sybil
  5. Deborah

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    I was trying to appeal to a cross range of folks ... <grin>
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    I really like this, Deborah. I see affirmations for myself here--Even though I feel guilty, I am open to the idea that the guilt isn't mine. I am also open to the idea that this guilt is trying to tell me something, and I open myself to finding the path I should take. I am open to the idea that I can listen to myself, that I know the answers.


    :)Thanks for posting.
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    3Gs4Me Blessed Beyond Belief!

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    This is very timely for me. Thanks so much for posting.
  9. Kat Miller

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    Just a couple of small comments regarding guilt.

    1)
    The Switchword for releasing guilt is THANKS:

    THANKS - stop regretting; release guilt

    You can try just tapping THANKS through EFT and see
    what comes of it.

    2)
    Guilt goes to the Circulation/Sex Meridian, which is
    the EFT tapping point on the middle finger.

    Consider that any circulation or sexual dysfunction
    may relate to a core issue of guilt, and THANKS may
    also be useful tapped on just that EFT point.

    There is also a quick reference to the energy meridians
    and organs associated with the EFT tapping points and
    the emotions swallowed to those areas at:
    http://www.pd.ehdef.com

    Kat
  10. Deborah

    Deborah New Member

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    Thanks Kat for sharing your knowledge -- very helpful ....
  11. Natalia

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    Thanks Kat. That was very useful.
  12. Kat Miller

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    You are welcome.

    I love Switchwords + EFT.

    BENEVOLENT-LOVE-BE.

    Kat

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