Laurie, I'm singling you out because you talked about your friend who didn't transition well to having older children. What's some good advice? How does one make this transition? Any tips? I feel at a crossroads of sorts with my 9 yr old. Clearly, he is still young and needs a lot of parenting. However, he does have different needs than his younger siblings (at 6, 4, and 7 mths). I can perceive a "shift" in our relationship and his need for relationships with friends. It is hard for me to give up that place in his life. How do we balance? What's your best advice for remaining a solid and loving presence in their lives without infringing on their personal business?