I have read ALL of the posts regarding this explosive topic, and I just have some thoughts on why we, as a family have chosen to be "attachement parents". We were created, as women, to respond physically to our babies cries. Our heart rate rises, and if breastfeeding, our breasts tend to leak, or prepare to feed. This is how we are designed, and to chose not to respond to a child's cries, is us fighting our mothering instinct. This instinct is very important, and when we fight it, we fight what we were created to be. Our main reason in being so called "attachemnent parents" is more for the long term, than just to meet my young childs needs. If we train them to sleep alone by not responding to thier cries, they learn that they can not trust us to be there for them. I know many of us were parented that way, and most of us turned out just fine, right? But, as a teenager, were you completely comfortable going to your parents for ANYTHING, to talk about being pressured into sex, or to experiment with drugs? My theory is that by showing our children now, when they are young, that they can count on us for their every need, that later on in life this feeling will continue. And when the time arrises that they are feeling the pressure to have sex, or to experiment with drugs or alcohol, that they can come to us,because they trust us completely, and KNOW that we have always been there for them, and always will be there for them. I read once somewhere....."Would you leave your 90 year old incapacitated grandparent alone in a room crying? Only to check on them and say, it's okay go back to slep, but never comfort them or find out what they need, even if it is companionship to fall asleep?" If you would not treat your grandparent this way, then why a helpless child? So in then end, while I respect that every mother choses how she raises her children, think about what kind of people you want them to become.