My friend says yes. She tells me I am being arrogant when I feel sorry for someone because I am thinking that my place in life is better than theirs. And I have to agree: when I donated to Haitian relief it was because I felt sorry for the people. I can not imagine losing loved ones and a home in an earthquake. I definitely counted my blessings and gave. She said my motivation was wrong because of my value judgements. I see her point but...anyone care to chime in?