I was recommended this book by Evan's summer school teacher. Evan is having some problems following directions, listening. With all he has been through with my illness and being away I think some of this is to be expected Time and understanding is what is needed now, not a dictatorship. Still, it is something we need to address somehow for his own good. Something has got to change. I read this book before, I don't remember any of it but DH said I had some issues with it. I just this week re-read it. It seems like it would work, but at what expense? DH counts to him but has never read the book. It just didn't feel right when I was reading it but I was desperate and was going to give it a try. Then a couple of major red flags came up. The first was the author suggested locking your child in their room if they wouldn't stay put for a time out. My jaw just dropped when I read that. The next red flag was when the author said never sleep with your child, if your child had a nightmare or there is a storm or something that brings your child into your room make them sleep on the floor next to your bed. IMO that is just cruel. Those 2 examples discredited the author in my eyes. Has anyone used this method? I know I can still use it and just not do those 2 things, but would I want to be following a discipline method written by someone who would recommend such treatment? I am sorry if I offended anyone that uses this method, I am just questioning some of the tactics and wondering if it actually works anyway. Today was the last day of summer school for Evan and at the end of the class the teacher gave every parent a copy. It came with a letter on how it was recommended by the principal of the school Evan will be attending for kindergarden. This kind of concerned me and really IMO didn't seem appropriate. I am currently re-reading Positive Discipline. I know my kids are going though an adjustment period but I really need to get some structure and boundaries back. Any ideas?