Thread: What to do with the private forums

I would like to carry on here as well, but not in the same manner that I did before. Not to exaggerate, and I have no idea what impression you were given of this site when you bought it, Brad, but I think I speak for many of us when I say that it feels rather like we're finding out our private correspondence is about to be published. It has been a jarring experience for me, personally. I have written many things here that I would not have on any other message board, and most assuredly will not on this or any other in the future. We can be something new. A bit less intimate, open. We can still be fun and have great conversations and passionately discuss things that will interest new members. But we need the ability to line edit the manuscript that is this site before we publish it to the world.

and occasionally necessary, my as.s. sorry, but i am tired, and can't stop thinking of people we've lost through the years.

Originally Posted by wethreepeeps

I would like to carry on here as well, but not in the same manner that I did before. Not to exaggerate, and I have no idea what impression you were given of this site when you bought it, Brad, but I think I speak for many of us when I say that it feels rather like we're finding out our private correspondence is about to be published. It has been a jarring experience for me, personally. I have written many things here that I would not have on any other message board, and most assuredly will not on this or any other in the future. We can be something new. A bit less intimate, open. We can still be fun and have great conversations and passionately discuss things that will interest new members. But we need the ability to line edit the manuscript that is this site before we publish it to the world.

I guess I don't understand how you could possibly feel this way when I have stated one hundred times that it would never be made public.

I don't just mean sisters. I also have posts in the private special needs forum, which you have removed my access to.

Originally Posted by wethreepeeps

I don't just mean sisters. I also have posts in the private special needs forum, which you have removed my access to.

I'm not sure why that is the case, but it can and will be fixed. Again, no private forums will be made public under any circumstances.

Originally Posted by Brad

I guess I don't understand how you could possibly feel this way when I have stated one hundred times that it would never be made public.

For some of us it is not just in private areas, sisters has a minimum post requirement and before I got there I shared stuff on the market board.

Originally Posted by Brad

I guess I don't understand how you could possibly feel this way when I have stated one hundred times that it would never be made public.

You have to understand that a lot of these mamas trusted Joli. She totally betrayed that trust. The wounds are still fresh. You are new, we don't know you, you haven't earned our trust (quite the opposite so far, actually) so why should they take you for your word?

I do not expect an answer, I'm not trying to argue with you. I'm just trying to get you to understand.

Originally Posted by Brad

, but I am telling you that it is highly unusual.

So? So? Do you have a "standard forum practices committee" to report to? Why does this editing thing bother YOU if it does not bother US, hundreds of members? It is our content, why do you even care? Is it technically hard to leave the editing button the way it was before?

I just do not understand why do you so vehemently insist of restricting editing? Why do you insist on deciding when it it necessary and when it is not to edit one's own post?

Give me some real reason please, other than "it is highly unusual" and "this is standard practice", because if those are the only reasons, then it's akin to saying "we are not going to do this because that's not how it's been done before".

Originally Posted by MommytoTommy

For some of us it is not just in private areas, sisters has a minimum post requirement and before I got there I shared stuff on the market board.

Which is a public forum.

Originally Posted by irinam

So? So? Do you have a "standard forum practices committee" to report to? Why does this editing thing bother YOU if it does not bother US, hundreds of members? It is our content, why do you even care? Is it technically hard to leave the editing button the way it was before?

I just do not understand why do you so vehemently insist of restricting editing? Why do you insist on deciding when it it necessary and when it is not to edit one's own post?

Give me some real reason please, other than "it is highly unusual" and "this is standard practice", because if those are the only reasons, then it's akin to saying "we are not going to do this because that's not how it's been done before".

I have already stated why it typically doesn't work and can cause problems. I have also stated that I am willing to consider that those reasons may not apply here and that in fact it might be more important to have the edit ability here.

Originally Posted by Brad

Which is a public forum.

yes which I always had the option to edit but now I don't which is distressing to me

Originally Posted by MommytoTommy

yes which I always had the option to edit but now I don't which is distressing to me

I understand and will address that issue, but my response was to the post that private information would be made public.

Originally Posted by Brad

Which is a public forum.

do you realize that it wasn't always? When Joli bought the site she made everything open to google, that's why the restricteds were created. Before then people posted what they wanted. As you can see by looking back a few years even with our heady powers of deletion the entire board was not wiped clean.

Originally Posted by Brad

I have already stated why it typically doesn't work and can cause problems.

And many and myself included replied that this is YOUR opinion and experience of how things turn out versus our community experience of 10+ years of having the Edit button without any problems, so why don't you take our word for it, rather than trying to fix what's not broken.

Originally Posted by Brad

I have already stated why it typically doesn't work and can cause problems. I have also stated that I am willing to consider that those reasons may not apply here and that in fact it might be more important to have the edit ability here.

Because we've been working together that way for a very long time, isn't that enough??? Good lord Brad, you're not married, are you? Because when you get married, and then have kids, well, you find out that some things really aren't as important as you thought they were. Like causing problems via the edit button on a message board. Because either A) you're too freakin' busy, or B) it's not so important to be RIGHT, or C) you're mature enough to realize that the other person has a really valid point.

When you get married, you start to realize there are things that are more important than being right. That being able to edit, and say, wow, YOU were right, well, that is more important...