Thread: my 3 nearly four year old soiling him self.

Hi there i have a three year old going on four,He has been toilet trained for a year and a half now,But all of a sudden he keeps pooing him self,he just won't go to the toilet i tell him he doesen't listen.i took him and put him on the loo and said he could't go after 5mins he does it in his pants. can any one give me any advice on what to do?

I know with my 3 boys that are toilet trained, it just seems that at that age they are very easily distracted and it really takes time for them to mature into know their body's signals. I would try to see if there is a pattern to when he is having accidents (is it usually at a certain time of day). Also is he constipated, I know some children will "hold" it because it is painful, then have an accident.

For us what worked was lots of patience and time. Gentle reminding and watching for any cues that they needed to go to the bathroom.

Thankyou for ur advice. well i do no all the signs of wen he needs to go, there doesn't seem to be a patten,he not constapated, he just to busy to go toilet.we have got a seven moth old as well and he getting jelious of her.He did this when she was born but not since then.the baby crawling now so getting more attention than before, its so hard to share ur time between them.

Well that is one of the reasons I waited so long to potty train, I kept getting preggo. :lol: Maybe try keeping up with when he is going to the bathroom for a few days and see if there is a pattern. If you find one then try to get him on the potty at that time and make it a special time with a book or something.

Trust me I know it can be hard with a baby. He will get better at this as he gets older. Sometimes it just takes time. Gently remind him that he needs to go and maybe get him some special undies. Then you can remind him that he doesn't want to mess up his "spiderman" (or whatever) undies.

Lol im not planning on having any more for a while now. well he seems to have settled back down again to his normal self. It took lots of talking rather than shouting and lots of praise.I don't think this will be the last time it happens but all is ok at the moment. thankyou for all ur advice.